Presentation is everything! Does that give us
permission to judge people based on how they are dressed or carrying
themselves? No. That’s not what I am saying at all. I am saying, however, that
our appearance and our actions tell our story. What story are you sharing?
If a teacher wore a nurse’s uniform to the store
people would assume she was a nurse and worked for a hospital or a private
clinic. If they asked and she confessed that she was a teacher the next
question would be, “Then why are you dressed as a nurse?”
I feel the same way when I see or hear women stating
their status as queens, phenomenal ladies, professionals, mothers and wives.
How are you dressed? How are you acting in public? It’s hard to hear it, chew
it and swallow it, but there comes a point where we all have to self-reflect. Now you may say, “What I wear does not make
or break me, it should not matter, that’s not who I am”. So then why wear it?
Why do it? And perhaps you are right, but let’s face it, the first thing people
notice is your outer appearance or your behavior. They are not seeing your
heart.
Ladies, this is important when we deal with guys
specifically. A guy will place you into a mental category immediately after
meeting you based on how you are dressed and what you are doing when he meets
you. If he sees you fighting, cussing and carrying on, he is not thinking,
“She’ll be a great mother or wife someday.” I’ve spoken to several male friend
and they all agree. They know immediately whether they want a girl to be a
play-thing, girlfriend or more. This placement depends on how we carry
ourselves and the boundaries we set in place from the beginning! That’s where
many young women make mistakes. They don’t set boundaries and a few months later
they complain to friends. “He does not respect me! He talks to me any ole’ way
and does whatever he feels like!” Well sweetheart, we treat people how to treat
us by what we accept, allow and the boundaries we set in place during those
first few dates. If you carry yourself like a phenomenal, classy lady, you will
be treated accordingly. You set the bar. Don’t let someone else set it for you.
You determine how others will treat you depending on how you treat yourself.
Keep your head high, your clothes flattering but still modest, and demand
respect.
Let’s all do some self-reflection this week. Let’s
look in our closets, in our relationships, the places we visit and reflect on
our behaviors in public to ensure that the story we are sharing with others, is
a story we want told.
Phenomenal ladies shine, always
Xoxo
